Monthly Archives: June 2013

Enough with the Creeping

This went up on John Scalzi’s Whatever (and a number of other places) on Friday–

Reporting Harassment at a Convention: A First-Person How To

It’s an important post by Elise Matthesen, talking about her experience of being harassed at a con and how she dealt with it. Though it’s been blowing up all over the SF and Fantasy side of the internet, I think it deserves all the signal boost it can get.

Now, a short personal message. As a guy, to all the guys out there in the community– enough with the fucking creeping already. And I’m not just talking to those who do it. Though yeah, you should really stop. I’m talking to all of us who know this shit happens, but it’s uncomfortable to talk about, so maybe we could just pretend it doesn’t… No. No we can not. We have to deal with this, and call guys on it when they’re being creepy. Even when we know them. Even if we are them.

Oh! But someone has a question! How do I know if I’m being creepy? I’m a very friendly guy! That could be misinterpreted. Excellent. Well, here’s a very quick, if crude, test. Imagine that everyone you meet at a con is Vin Diesel.

Pic by Andre Luis / CC Attribution-Sharealike

Pic by Andre Luis / CC Attribution-Sharealike

This guy!

Vin Diesel is awesome. You’d want to meet him at a con, wouldn’t you? He plays D&D!

Now let’s consider this–

If you asked him for a photo, would you put your hand on his ass while you stood beside him?

If he stepped on an elevator with you, would you wait for the doors to close and then tell him how hot he looks in those pants?

Would you follow him from party to party, so that you could sneak up from behind and grab him for huggy time, because he just makes you so darn happy?

My guess is no. Why not? Are you going to meet anyone else at a con who is as awesome as that guy? No, probably not. So why not be all friendly touchy-feely to him? Does it seem disrespectful? Are you concerned he might not like it?  Maybe those thoughts should occur to you before you pull those moves on anyone.

Okay?

PS– If you would do those things to Vin Diesel, stop it. He shouldn’t be creeped on either.

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Gorilla writing

Not the primates. More like the warfare.

Busy Kelly is Busy. Again. Still. Always. I feel like I’ve written this same post twelve times over the past year. “I’m so frickin’ busy!”

Sometimes finding writing time is easy. Friends are busy doing other things; it’s too cold/hot/rainy/dry to do yard work or exercise outdoors; the spouse it cooking dinner tonight; there’s nothing good on TV. Sure, there’s always something to read/do/watch/bitch about on the internet, but if that siren song can be ignored for an hour, it’s all good.

It’s a little trickier when Real Life rears its head. Yes, I’ve been particularly busy over the past year, but I’ve managed to write several short stories, finish one novel, start another, and get a contract for a secret project. That secret project is due soon, and I’ve got to get crackin’ on it. This is not an arbitrary deadline; I’ve got a whole lot of words due in about thirty days. This will necessitate a change in protocol. Normally, I reserve writing for evenings and weekends. Now, though, I’m going to employ the stealth mode of writing. On the train. At lunch hour. Staying up a bit later at night. That sort of thing.

I’m a bit exhilarated, actually. Sure, stressed, but excited and pumped up.

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Hello, thunderstorm

I’m paranoid about keeping my computer unplugged during thunderstorms. Since it’s not a laptop and I live in the Midwest, that means there are a lot of evenings and weekends during the spring and summer when I can’t write on the computer.

But the reason I don’t have a laptop is because I wanted an iPad, and $iMac + $iPad = $Macbook.

So I do a lot of work on the iPad. I’m still waiting for the iPad version of Scrivener. Without it, there are some things I can only do on the computer. Like revise that novel I’m supposed to be revising tonight. (If only I could control the weather like the protagonist of that book.)

This is where working on multiple projects is really useful. I might not be able to do the revision work I want to be doing right now, but I can work on this other novel, or that short story. My revisions will be waiting patiently for better weather.

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Vacationland

It’s summer, and the traveling season has begun. Last week I went camping with the family at Mammoth Cave. By the time I remembered I was supposed to post something here, I was in a hole in the ground. There’s very bad cell reception in a hole. In the ground.

This week though, I remembered! While I’m in the middle of packing for another trip, to exciting Indiana. So yeah, I’m pretty useless this time too. I will say though, that long car trips are useful for plotting out books. Though after 3 am, the plotlines start to get awful strange.

Not 80’s hair strange, but strange.

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Time Traveled Tales

So I’m using my post this week to blather about a Kickstarter for Time Traveled Tales. For those that don’t know, it’s the Origins 2012 anthology. My story “Know Your Nemesis” went on to become one of the subplots of my World Domination book. Silence in the Library Publishing is having a Kickstarter to reprint the anthology with cool artwork by Matt Slay. There will be hardcovers available, I believe, and some of the stretch goals include coins engraved with artwork from the book. Money raised will go to the authors as well as literacy programs.

Kickstarting a book is a new paradigm in publishing, I think, and I might give it a whirl before the end of the year.

Anyhoo, if you’d like to support writers and readers, give Time Traveled Tales Kickstarter a look.

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Audiobooks

I signed up for Audible recently. I was motivated to try it because they had the first three chapters of Josh Kaufman’s The First Twenty Hours up for free, but then I realized it melds nicely with this year’s goal or reading books rather than blogs. I hadnt thought about the audio version–audiobooks not podcasts–but it seems like it’s an even better idea there.

In the case of books-not-blogs, my main reasoning was content: blogs are (usually) pretty disorganized and superficial. Podcasts actually seem a little more content-heavy, at least the ones I follow, but the overhead of making sure to update them, sync my phone, delete the old ones, find the one I want to listen to…it’s even more of a pain than with blogs.

Audiobooks solve both problems: way less overhead since they’re 10-20 times as long, in-depth well-organized content, and as a bonus maybe I can attack my reading list a bit. Also, easier to wrangle in the car.

I’m still undecided on whether I’ll keep it after the first couple months, though. My recall is a lot worse for audio than for something I’m reading, and it’s almost impossible to take notes (especially since I’ve been listening while doing other things, like driving or gardening). So we’ll see.

Any recommendations for great nonfiction audiobooks?

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Origins 2013–it’s here!

How did it get to be mid-June already? That’s not a rhetorical question. I really want to know.

Anyhoo, since it’s mid-June, that means I’m at Origins Game Fair in Columbus. It’s my first time as a writing-program event planner, and while I’m a bit nervous, so far it’s going well. If you’re in the environs of the Convention Center and want to stalk me at some writing panels, here’s my schedule:

Thursday 10 a.m., room 223: Hey! I’ve got a day job!

Friday, 11 a.m., room 223: Women Writing Horror

Friday, noon, room 222: Sexism, How much is too much?

Saturday, 11 a.m., room 223: A writing group is not just a group of writers

Sunday, 11 a.m., room 222: Writing Middle Grade and Young Adult Fiction

I’ll be in the Library area of the dealer hall most other times. When I’m not eating or playing games, that is. Origins is a gaming convention, so I expect I’ll be sleep-deprived and over-caffeinated by Sunday afternoon.

 

 

 

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